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Our Values

August 3, 2009 by bertram

A few weekends ago I attended the ‘Breakthrough Experience’ with Dr. John Demartini and I can say without a shadow of a doubt that it has changed the way that I think: in a good way. As it has given me a different perspective on many fronts and one of them is ‘Values’.

When you stop to think about it everyone has a set of values that relate to all areas of their lives. That is : Vocational, Familial, Spiritual, Mental, Financial, Social and Physical. Considering that no two people have had the same set of experiences and the same upbringing, it is fair to say that each person would have a set of values that is unique to them. That said, how could any two people agree with each other on every value. There are bound to be differences in many areas. So when someone does something or says something that conflicts with another persons values there are grounds for disagreement. So how do you handle this?

From my experience people will disagree in a number of different ways and usually want to change the other person’s actions or statements. Some may even get quite emotional about it and create some passionate argument for change to occur. Some might even become aggressive with it.

My point here is simply this. If you consider that everyone who walks the planet has their own unique set of values and are entitled to them, there should be no misunderstanding, because it is just another persons view based on THEIR set of values and NOT YOURS.

I don’t know about you, but when I got this, it made me understand that if someone said something or did something that was in conflict with my values, that I could make an effort to see it from their point of view and their set of values.

So, being careless means talking in terms of your values and not others.
Being caring means communicating your values in terms of others.
Being careful means talking in terms of others values but not yours.

Namaste

Bertram

The power of the subconscious

June 21, 2009 by bertram

I was walking past an office building the other day and I noticed three men standing outside the building puffing on their cigarettes. What amazed me was that it was an insurance office and I could not help but think that these men who worked in the insurance industry must be aware of the statistics about smokers. I know that if you are a smoker; your insurance policy will have a loading on it and it will cost you more than a non-smoker.

So why would anyone who understands the frightening statistics about the health hazards of smoking continue to smoke?

I put it down to a number of different reasons including nicotine addiction, but the one that stands out for me is the power of the subconscious mind.

We now know that over 90% of what we do is governed by our subconscious mind. Yes, if you didn’t know that read it again. Over 90% of what you do is controlled by your subconscious. The beauty of it is that you can decide with your conscious mind, that you want to change a habit. The reality is that if you do not have the subconscious on your side you will not achieve it. I guess, it is like your conscious mind is the captain of the ship and the crew is the subconscious. The captain can give the orders, but if the crew don’t carry them out, it will not happen.

With that in mind it is important to ask how could anyone use their subconscious to help and assist them. There are numerous Cd’s, books and videos on this subject and the simplest would have to be through meditation. When in a relaxed state a persons subconscious mind is more open and able to accessed with new information that creates new neural pathways (new habits). Our old habits (old neural pathways) can be changed.

Another very effective way is to use a Life Coach. A good Life Coach will help and assist you to see where you are in life, then look at where you want to go in life and close that gap and get you there in a relatively short space of time, which includes getting rid of old bad habits. A good life Coach will be skilled in relating to your subconscious mind so that the changes you want and need to make happen; quickly and effectively.

For more information on this intriguing subject please feel free to email me at bertram@bertramdaniel.com or leave a comment on this site.

The word – CAN’T

May 13, 2009 by bertram

When I was a young boy my grandmother used to say to me, “there is no such word as can’t.”

When you stop to think about it that is literally and metaphorically true, because the word is ‘cannot’.

Can’t is a word that is banned in my house. I like to substitute it for won’t.

Whatever situation you are in, whatever problems you are facing, however difficult….there is always a way out if you look (and then work) hard enough.

You already have the solutions to your problems – yet you may think that you are unable to see a ‘way out’. Someone, somewhere, has been in the same situation (or worse) as you and now lives a happy, successful, and balance life.

How did they do it?

They accepted that THEY, and only they, were responsible for where and who they were and where and who they wanted to be in the future.

The first step is getting rid of your attachment to negative words – can’t being the first one.

Action Point:

What won’t you do that you think you can’t?

It is easy to find excuses where stepping out of your comfort zone’ is concerned.

We all do it, but very few people tackle it head on and just ignore that little voice saying that they can’t do something.

Namaste

Bertram

Making a difference

May 4, 2009 by bertram

Today I read this quote and it really resonated for me. In fact if you read the words for ‘TIME’ that also appears on this site you will see the similarities. So read away:

Today I will make a difference. I will begin by controlling my thoughts. A person is the product of his thoughts. I want to be happy and hopeful. Therefore, I will have thoughts that are happy and hopeful. I refuse to be victimized by my circumstances. I will not let petty inconveniences such as stoplights, long lines, and traffic jams be my masters. I will avoid negativism and gossip. Optimism will be my companion, and victory will be my hallmark.
Today I will make a difference. – Max Lucado, from On the Anvil

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did

Namaste

Bertram

What is Reality?

April 22, 2009 by bertram

So what is reality?

Is my reality your reality? How could it be. MY reality is based on the sum total of MY experiences and MY set of values and MY judgments and MY thoughts and ideas. Quite different to YOUR experiences and YOUR values and YOUR judgments and YOUR thoughts and ideas.

So that would mean that every person who walks the planet has their own unique reality. This makes it very interesting, does it not? Also makes me realise that what I know as my reality is really an illusion! It is my version, which is nobody elses version. So what is reality? Yes, I would say it is an illusion. It is something that I have made up to suit myself.

With this in mind I can see that I can now change my reality, because if I made up my reality as I see it today I can just as easily create a new reality. Confused? I hope not.

As I see it, it is like I can reformat my hard disk (my brain which is the most powerful computer ever built) and put it some new software that will do a better job than the old version that did not serve me well. Sounds easy doesn’t it?

The truth is that 90% of what happens to anyone is the result of their subconscious mind at work. So I can make the decision to change at a conscious level, but the real work has to be done at a subconscious level. So how do you do that you might ask.

From my experience (my reality!) the methods are wide and varied. I guess what suits you depends on your reality!!

I am happy to make some suggestions according to your own unique point of view.

Namaste

Bertram

Our Values

The power of the subconscious

The word – CAN’T

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What is Reality?

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