Someone said to me recently “this isn’t working for me”.
This statement has a presupposition built into it –
the presupposition is that “it” had to “work” for “them”.
Not possible.
The truth is, with everything we do, we work it, not the other way around. This is the framework of 100% responsibility for our results and our non-results.
Rather than externalising what “caused” something to not work – keep it within you – you are the cause for the results you are getting. What you may choose to consider –
1. Nothing has meaning except the meaning you give it – “it” not working is a meaning, not a truth – it can’t be anything more than an interpretation you are bringing to the event
2. The quality of your life will improve the moment you own point 1
3. Decide before the event the meaning you will give it
4. If you don’t like how something is going, either change your beliefs, change your strategy or raise your standards – success is only a heartbeat away
5. Take 100% responsibility for how you “feel” about something – and if you know NLP you know how to change this feeling in a moment!
6. Look for patterns in what you like & dislike and determine if those choices serve you or hinder you and the outcomes you want
7. If your patterns hinder you, & you still do them, what is the secondary gain? What do you get out of that pattern?
8. Give up your stories about why things are the way they are, why you feel the way you do, what works & what doesn’t – it’s all unfolding exactly the way you want it to
9. If Point 8 pushed a button, go to Point 7
Warmest Regards,
Bertram