One of my goals and aspirations has been to learn unconditional love. And I would say that this goal is a work in progress.
Some information that I came across from a book called ‘From the heart of Shamanic Healing’ by Doctor Alberto Villoldo gave me an interesting perspective on the subject of unconditional love.
He said that selfless love is the same as unconditional love. That is to say that this love is not conditional on anyone or anything. To go further on the subject he says that unconditional love is love that is not conditioned by sentimentality, by culture, by time, by history. It is unconditioned by society and is the natural instinctive love that we are born with into the world.
The Jesuits have a saying “Give me a boy till he is seven and I will show you the man.” I so believe that from the age of one-year-old till 7-year-old (call it the ‘Age of Impression’) is when all our emotional learning is done and what happens for the rest of lives is purely a repetition of the same patterns of behaviour learned at that impressionable time.
From what I am learning it would appear to me that we are born into the world perfect, whole and complete and fully connected to the universe. Over a period of time well-meaning parents, teachers and peers close that connection with the universe. I guess we become disengaged from the universe. Disengaged from ‘Unconditional Love.’
The path back to Unconditional Love is to realise that we are perfect, whole and complete and all we have done is taken on some thoughts, ideas and learnings that do not serve us well.
The words from the musical ‘Time’ come back to me now:
Throughout the Universe there is order. In the movement of the planets, in nature and in the functioning of the human mind.
A mind that in its natural state of order is in harmony with the universe & such a mind is timeless.
Your life is an expression of your mind.
You are a creator of your own universe For as a human being you are free to will whatever state of being you desire through the use of your thoughts and words. There is great power there. It can be a blessing or a curse it is entirely up to you.
For the quality of your life is brought about by the quality of your thinking Think about that. Thoughts produce actions – Look at what you are thinking. See the pettiness and the envy and the greed and fear and all the other attitudes that cause you pain and discomfort. Realise that the one thing you have absolute control over is your attitude.
See the effect that it has on those around you. For each life is linked to all life and your words carry with them chain reactions like a stone that is thrown into a pond. If your thinking is in order, your words will flow directly from the heart creating ripples of love. If you truly want to change your world, my friends, you must change your thinking.
Reason is your greatest tool; it creates an atmosphere of understanding which leads to caring which is love.
Choose your words with care, go forth with love” . . . . . . .