Know your ‘Why”

Today I thought of a metaphor for mirroring an abundant life.

You are an architect designing a building. The architect has to design the building in minute detail and he designs what the building will look like, feel like and how it would work.  He creates the vision. However he does not build the building, he leaves that to the builder. The builder builds it in the best way possible.

So you are the architect and the building is your life. You create the vision of how your life will look and feel in minute detail. Then you leave it to the builder to let it happen and the builder of course is the Universe. You don’t need to know how, just let it happen. Have the faith and it will all come to pass. Just know ‘Why’ and the ‘How’ will take care of itself.

Namaste, Bertram

I have the vision, now let’s achieve the dream

“It is every man’s obligation to put back into the world at least the equivalent of what he takes out of it.” – Albert Einstein

I have a dream to put together a group of like-minded people, with a desire to make a difference.

I am not content to simply reach my business goals, I have always had the desire to form a community of people interested in improving the quality of their lives with a common goal of helping and assisting others along the way.

So, rather than simply sit on the sidelines and wish that I had done something, I am stepping up and acting and putting together a group of motivated individuals to help my dream become a reality; and this is where the Eye Ball Community is born.

To be effective through the Eye Ball Community needed a firm goal, somewhere to focus all of its efforts. So we organised a charity ball, called the ‘Eye Ball’ in aid of The Fred Hollows Foundation and last Friday we raised nearly $150,000 which will go towards doing something constructive about the intolerable disparity that exists between the health and wellbeing of Australia’s Indigenous communities and the general community.

Our vision now has a focus and a goal, but to truly become reality it needs support, and that is where everyone at Eye Ball Community can step in.

The Eye Ball was not just about raising money, it was about forming a true community to help reach some lofty goals and make a difference in 1000s of people’s lives, including our own. We have made that first step, now let’s get going and widen our community from 700 people to thousands of like-minded folk who want to make a difference and create their own legacy.

Namaste

Bertram

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

One of my goals and aspirations has been to learn unconditional love. And I would say that this goal is a work in progress.

Some information that I came across from a book called ‘From the heart of Shamanic Healing’ by Doctor Alberto Villoldo gave me an interesting perspective on the subject of unconditional love.

He said that selfless love is the same as unconditional love. That is to say that this love is not conditional on anyone or anything. To go further on the subject he says that unconditional love is love that is not conditioned by sentimentality, by culture, by time, by history. It is unconditioned by society and is the natural instinctive love that we are born with into the world.

The Jesuits have a saying “Give me a boy till he is seven and I will show you the man.” I so believe that from the age of one-year-old till 7-year-old (call it the ‘Age of Impression’) is when all our emotional learning is done and what happens for the rest of lives is purely a repetition of the same patterns of behaviour learned at that impressionable time.

From what I am learning it would appear to me that we are born into the world perfect, whole and complete and fully connected to the universe. Over a period of time well-meaning parents, teachers and peers close that connection with the universe. I guess we become disengaged from the universe. Disengaged from ‘Unconditional Love.’

The path back to Unconditional Love is to realise that we are perfect, whole and complete and all we have done is taken on some thoughts, ideas and learnings that do not serve us well.

The words from the musical ‘Time’ come back to me now:

Throughout the Universe there is order. In the movement of the planets, in nature and in the functioning of the human mind.

A mind that in its natural state of order is in harmony with the universe & such a mind is timeless.

Your life is an expression of your mind.

You are a creator of your own universe For as a human being you are free to will whatever state of being you desire through the use of your thoughts and words. There is great power there. It can be a blessing or a curse it is entirely up to you.

For the quality of your life is brought about by the quality of your thinking Think about that. Thoughts produce actions – Look at what you are thinking. See the pettiness and the envy and the greed and fear and all the other attitudes that cause you pain and discomfort. Realise that the one thing you have absolute control over is your attitude.

See the effect that it has on those around you. For each life is linked to all life and your words carry with them chain reactions like a stone that is thrown into a pond. If your thinking is in order, your words will flow directly from the heart creating ripples of love. If you truly want to change your world, my friends, you must change your thinking.

Reason is your greatest tool; it creates an atmosphere of understanding which leads to caring which is love.

Choose your words with care, go forth with love” . . . . . . .

Namaste

Bertram

From Ambition to Meaning

I feel that I have reached a point in my life of a major change in my attitude and in my thinking. I no longer have a burning ambition to be, do, have and become. It is now more a case of going with the flow of where life takes me, following my intuition and inner knowing. I guess it is a case of ‘Let go and let God.’

So how and why has this happened?

I was listening to Wayne Dyer speaking and he put it this way. When you are an unborn baby everything is taken care for you. You do not have to think about anything you just go with the flow. Everything is decided for you. Everything evolves perfectly. We accept everything, we surrender to it and we allow it to guide us. So who or what is the ‘It’ that does all this and creates all this?

Call it what you like; God, Source, Universe, whatever word you fancy. I prefer to call it the Universe.

We are then born and others, being well intentioned parents, grandparents, Uncles, Aunts, teachers, peers etc. take over to teach us to be like this or that. To do things like this or that. To have this and that. In essence we are taught to be ambitious. We are taught that you are what you have. You are what you do and you become what others think of you. We are made to want things, to have things and to become someone. In other words our egos are developed.

The sad fact is that EGO is an acronym for “Edging God Out”

We now become separate from God and stop the inner guidance that kept us safe and sound for the first nine months of our lives. It is ego that creates this separation. We create a duality from what was just the ONE. We were at one with the Universe, God, Source etc. We were in perfect harmony, we were as Abraham says through Esther Hicks, “Going with the flow,” or we were “In the Vortex.”

So now we are in our ambitious phase we go about getting more, doing more to be liked and approved of and gain a reputation! The strange thing is that during all of this there is a voice speaking to us, which we disregard and ignore. But as much as we ignore this voice it seems to get louder and we have this feeling that there is something more and that there is something missing. We do not feel fulfilled.

There was a study done where people were asked what was important to them in their ambitious phase and then asked the same question twenty years later and the answers were very interesting and were quite different between men and women.

In the case of men in the ambitious phase the answers were:

wealth, adventure, achievement, seeking pleasure and being respected and so on.

In the case of women in the ambitious phase it was:

family, independence, career, fitting in and being attractive etc.

Then twenty years later the answers were quite different.

For men: spirituality, personal peace, family, God’s will and honesty etc.

For women: personal growth, self esteem, spirituality, happiness and generosity etc.

So why and how the major change?

I guess the voice just got louder and louder till we had to listen, because in spite of all of the things and the doing and having there was this sense of emptiness and feeling that there was something much more important.

Sadly it is at this time that for many people depression sets it. They see no way out of the tunnel. In some cases suicide becomes an option. Some would call it a mid life crisis.

In my case I went through a period of depression and I was sent to a psychiatrist who prescribed drugs. This did not get to the root of the problem. All it did was mask the problem. After a while of swallowing these man made substances I decided that the natural way was better alternative and got into meditation, contemplation and learning. I was lucky that I had some good teachers and a support system and the more I learned and meditated the better I felt. When I was on the road to recovery it made me want to help and assist others, who were in the same predicament.

So then we begin to listen to this voice and pay attention to it! We begin to listen to our inner voice, our intuition or call it the God within us. We begin to let this voice guide us. We give in to the inner guidance. We begin to follow our heart.

We surrender to what kept us alive and well for the first nine months of our existence.

It is then that we begin to live by the natural Laws of the Universe.

We realize that we are at one with the Universe and that everything is in vibration and that we are vibtationary beings. We understand that source power always flows and works to and through the individual – that is you.

I think it was Einstein that said, “What the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve.”

We begin to understand that all we have to do is to create an image in our mind of what we desire for ourselves and for the greater good. We hold this image in our mind, have faith that it will happen and then follow our intuition and it will lead you to abundance. Sure, you have to do some work for it to happen, but the Universe will present you with all the right people and all the right opportunities along the way.

When this shift happens our life has a meaning. No longer are we thinking of ourselves. We seek to help and assist others get what they want. When we do this what follows is we then get what we want. To get value you must give value first.

The laws of the material world do not apply in the presence of God. It is said; “As long as shallow, worldly ambitions exist the door to God will not open.”

In the meaning phase of our lives we gain a reverence for life, with love and respect for ourselves and for others. We see the God in everyone. We realize that we are all ONE. There is no separation. There is no duality. Duality prevents oneness. We are all now part of that one voice. We are no longer separate from it, we are it!

Do not be like Ivan Ilych in the book by Tolstoy called “The death of Ivan Ilych,” where on his deathbed he says to his wife, “What if my life has been wrong?”

Live in the process not the outcome. Let go and let God.

Namaste

Bertram

bertram@bertramdaniel.com

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(Reproduced for your reading pleasure and learning)

Does the idea of standing in front of a mirror and appreciating your positive qualities feel uncomfortable and stupid? It did to me-which was a sign that I really needed to try it.
I first learned this mirror exercise in 1990, when I took a week-long course from my mentor, Jack Canfield, on self-esteem. Jack assigned the exercise as homework every night, saying, “Make sure you do this behind a closed door so nobody walks by and thinks you’re crazy.” Each night my roommate and I took turns going into the bathroom, shutting the door, and whispering sweet nothings to our reflections: “You’re kind.” “You’re loyal.” “You have a loving heart.”
The first night, I felt like a California New Age woo-woo nutcase, but soon I experienced a rush of sadness; I was such an expert at judging myself-why was it so hard to say nice things?
With practice, it gradually became easier to list reasons to love myself: “You’re smart.” “You go out of your way to help others.” And so on. But the real power of this exercise came when I learned to express appreciation for myself for no reason-to look myself in the eye and simply love who I was, unconditionally.
If you’re like most people, consciously recognizing the positive about yourself may feel conceited. After all, we’re raised not to “toot our own horns.” So we end up not giving ourselves credit or acknowledgment or even worse, beating ourselves up, which shuts down our hearts, contracts our energy, and decreases our happiness levels.
Doing the research for my book Happy for No Reason, I interviewed scores of scientists along with one hundred unconditionally happy people (I call them the Happy 100). One of the things I discovered is that truly happy people have a compassionate, encouraging, and validating att­­­­itude toward themselves. This isn’t arrogance or self-centeredness; it’s an appreciation and acceptance of who they are.
Learning to see the positive about yourself starts by changing your brain’s habit of focusing on your negative experiences and instead inclining your mind toward joy.
So today, begin registering your happy experiences more deeply– consciously look for them. You can make it a game you play with yourself. Have the intention to notice everything good that happens to you: anything you see, feel, taste, hear or smell that brings you joy, a “win” you experience, a breakthrough, an a-ha, or an expression of your creativity-the list goes on and on.
This intention triggers the reticular activating system (RAS), a group of cells at the base of your brain stem responsible for sorting through the massive amounts of incoming information and bringing anything important to your attention. Have you ever bought a car and then suddenly starting noticing the same make of car everywhere? It’s the RAS at work. Now you can use it to be happier. When you decide to look for the positive, your RAS makes sure that’s what you see.
Adelle, one of the Happy 100, told me about a unique method she has for registering the positive. As she goes about her day, she gives away awards in her mind: the best-behaved dog award, the most colourful landscape design at a fast food drive-through award, the most courteous driver award. This keeps her alert to the beauty and positivity that is all around her. Charmed by this idea, I tried it myself. I liked it so much, I’ve been giving out these “Happiness Oscars,” as I call them, ever since.
Once you notice something positive, take a moment to savour it consciously. Take the good experience in deeply and feel it; make it more than just a mental observation. If possible, spend around 30 seconds, soaking up the happiness you feel. If you want to accelerate your progress, take time every day to write down a few of your wins, breakthroughs, and things you appreciate about others-and about yourself.
You’ll know you’ve really mastered this when you can give yourself an Academy Award-for outstanding achievement in true happiness!
Marci Shimoff
Based on the New York Times bestseller Happy for No Reason: 7 Steps to Being Happy from the Inside Out, which offers a revolutionary approach to experiencing deep and lasting happiness. The woman’s face of the Chicken Soup for the Soul series and a featured teacher in The Secret, Marci is an authority on success, happiness, and the law of attraction. To order Happy for No Reason, newly released in paperback, and receive free bonus gifts, go to www.happyfornoreason.com/mybook