Good Vibrations

If you are old enough you will remember a song called ‘Good Vibrations’ that was a big hit for the Beach Boys somewhere in the 70’s or was it the 60’s.

Anyway the reason I want to talk about it is this. I have been thinking (some would say this is dangerous!!) about vibrations and this is how I see it.

From what we know now thanks to Quantum Physics, we are vibrational beings. Furthermore we now know that our thoughts are vibrations. This would mean that we are sending out these vibrations (thoughts) out into the Universe. What’s more we are receiving vibrations from others, as well. In other words we are both a transmitting and receiving station.

This would suggest to me that if I want to be a good Life Coach; when I am in a coaching session I need only to be in a receiving mode. Because if I start to think about what my client is saying and begin to logically analyse what they are saying then I will be sending out these vibrations (thoughts) to my client and these thoughts will interfere with what they are thinking and saying.

I need to be totally focused on my client and get me out of the way, so that I can relate to him/her intuitively rather than logically. If I follow my intuition and really listen, I will be able to guide that person to see and understand the issue for them to gain clarity on what it standing in the way of them moving forward. We know that vibrations are the key to attracting more into our lives.

I would love to hear what others think on this subject, because when we start to look at vibrations as a whole it is a huge topic on it’s own.



The word – CAN’T

When I was a young boy my grandmother used to say to me, “there is no such word as can’t.”

When you stop to think about it that is literally and metaphorically true, because the word is ‘cannot’.

Can’t is a word that is banned in my house. I like to substitute it for won’t.

Whatever situation you are in, whatever problems you are facing, however difficult….there is always a way out if you look (and then work) hard enough.

You already have the solutions to your problems – yet you may think that you are unable to see a ‘way out’.  Someone, somewhere, has been in the same situation (or worse) as you and now lives a happy, successful, and balance life.

How did they do it?

They accepted that THEY, and only they, were responsible for where and who they were and where and who they wanted to be in the future.

The first step is getting rid of your attachment to negative words – can’t being the first one.

Action Point:

What won’t you do that you think you can’t?

It is easy to find excuses where stepping out of your comfort zone’ is concerned.

We all do it, but very few people tackle it head on and just ignore that little voice saying that they can’t do something.



Ghandi – My Hero

A friend of mine sent me a quote today by Mahatma Ghandi.

It so happens that this man is a hero of mine, because he changed the course of history and defeated the might of the British Empire without guns, bullets and warfare.

He was and is an inspiration to many, many people including myself, so I would like to share the quote with you and hope that it gives you what you want to take from it.

(If you notice on the home page I have another quote from this great man)

Keep your thoughts positive,
because your thoughts become your words.
Keep your words positive,
because your words become your behaviours.
Keep your behaviours positive,
because your behaviours become your habits.
Keep your habits positive,
because your habits become your values.
Keep your values positive,
because your values become your destiny.

~ Gandhi ~

I hope you are in a good feeling place



Making a difference

Today I read this quote and it really resonated for me. In fact if you read the words for ‘TIME’ that also appears on this site you will see the similarities. So read away:

Today I will make a difference. I will begin by controlling my thoughts. A person is the product of his thoughts. I want to be happy and hopeful. Therefore, I will have thoughts that are happy and hopeful. I refuse to be victimized by my circumstances. I will not let petty inconveniences such as stoplights, long lines, and traffic jams be my masters. I will avoid negativism and gossip. Optimism will be my companion, and victory will be my hallmark.
Today I will make a difference.     –    Max Lucado, from On the Anvil

I hope you enjoy it as much as I did



What is Reality?

So what is reality?

Is my reality your reality? How could it be. MY reality is based on the sum total of MY experiences and MY set of values and MY judgments and MY  thoughts and ideas. Quite different to YOUR experiences and YOUR values and YOUR judgments and YOUR thoughts and ideas.

So that would mean that every person who walks the planet has their own unique reality. This makes it very interesting, does it not? Also makes me realise that what I know as my reality is really an illusion! It is my version, which is nobody elses version. So what is reality? Yes, I would say it is an illusion. It is something that I have made up to suit myself.

With this in mind I can see that I can now change my reality, because if I made up my reality as I see it today I can just as easily create a new reality. Confused? I hope not.

As I see it, it is like I can reformat my hard disk (my brain which is the most powerful computer ever built) and put it some new software that will do a better job than the old version that did not serve me well. Sounds easy doesn’t it?

The truth is that 90% of what happens to anyone is the result of their subconscious mind at work. So I can make the decision to change at a conscious level, but the real work has to be done at a  subconscious level. So how do you do that you might ask.

From my experience (my reality!) the methods are wide and varied. I guess what suits you depends on your reality!!

I am happy to make some suggestions according to your own unique point of view.



Old Paradigms

It always amazes me how we get stuck in old ways of thinking, because that’s what we have been told.

A beauty is “Get a real job, work hard and you will be fine.” What a load of cobblers. I know thousands of people who have done just that, who are still working in their ‘real job’ getting nowhere fast.

What happened to ‘work smart, not hard?’ That’s for me! So, how do we work smart, you might ask. Just have a look at many wealthy people and tell me if you see them working hard. Do you know why they are taking it easy? Because they are employing two very important principles in their lives; and they are – Leverage and Residual income.

Leverage is described as –  ‘the use of a small initial investment, credit, or borrowed funds to gain a very high return in relation to one’s investment, to control a much larger investment, or to reduce one’s own liability for any loss.  In other words you improve your speculative capacity and increase the rate of return from an investment.

You can leverage money, time or people. The truth is that the average Joe Blow does not have a lump sum of money to use as leverage or a business where he can leverage human resources. So that leaves time. Again the average person cannot leverage ‘time’ because there are only 24 hours in the day and unless you employ others and sell their ‘time’ at a profit you are back to square one.

‘Residual Income’ is when you get paid over and over again for doing a job once. Take an author or recording artist as an example. They write a book or record a song and get paid for years and years and years. So how does anyone create residual income easily without writing a book or recording a song?

So what is the answer? I know what it is and how it is done with a very small investment. I am happy to share the information with you. Just email: or check out


Accurate analysis of over 25,000 men and women who had experienced failure, disclosed the fact that lack of decision was near the head of the list of the 30 major causes of failure. This is no mere statement of a theory – it is a fact.

Procrastination, the opposite of decision, is a common enemy which practically every man must conquer.

You will have an opportunity to test your capacity to reach quick and definite decisions when you finish reading this lesson, and are ready to begin putting into action the principles which it describes.

Analysis of several hundred people who had accumulated fortunes well beyond the million dollar mark, disclosed the fact that every one of them had the habit of reaching decisions promptly, and of changing these decisions slowly, if, and when they were changed. People who fail to accumulate money, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions, if at all, very slowly, and of changing these decisions quickly and often.

The majority of people who fail to accumulate money sufficient for their needs, are, generally, easily influenced by the “opinions” of others. They permit the newspapers and the “gossiping” neighbors to do their “thinking” for them. “Opinions” are the cheapest commodities on earth. Everyone has a flock of opinions ready to be wished upon anyone who will accept them. If you are influenced by “opinions” when you reach decisions, you will not succeed in any undertaking, much less in that of transmuting your own desire into money.

If you are influenced by the opinions of others, you will have no desire of your own.

Napoleon Hill
From Think and Grow Rich

The Power of Love

Here is a piece that I borrowed from Song Cheng Xiang, that says it all. I hope you enjoy it as much as I did….

The power that can move mountains.

The love that I am going to talk about is not love in its ordinary sense. It is hard to
describe what the true meaning of love is, because no words can come close to its real meaning.

I think the best description may be that love is oneness; togetherness with the universe
and everything in it.

When you are loving, you see everything as a part of you, and therefore you are loving everything as you love yourself. This togetherness with everything,
this oneness with everything is the true meaning of love.

When you are loving, you see no separation; you and everyone else are the same. It is separation that creates all the miseries; when we feel separate, we instantly
disconnect with the infinite power, and we don’t feel loved. Without separation, “You”, “I” and “They” have no meaning; everything and everyone become ONE.

If there isn’t a “You”, and if there isn’t a “They”, then who am I going to hate, who am I going to feel angry at? Nobody!

Therefore, all hatred and anger will disappear, and what left is only LOVE.

You will have no more opponents and enemies, as they will all be dissolved into the ONE. You and your enemies are one. When you look into their eyes, what you see is
only a reflection of yourself; the loving and perfect being. You will see them as yourself, and you will forget how to hate. You will love your enemies as you love yourself.

When you truly understand the meaning of love, you know that you will love everyone equally, regardless of their race, their colour, their religion or their beliefs. You will love them as you love yourself regardless of whether they are your
family, spouse, friends, opponents or enemies; because you know that you and everyone else are perfect beings.

In fact, if you can really see the oneness in everything, you won’t even notice any differences in colour, culture, or belief etc.; you will only notice that you and they are
the same. They only appear to be different, but in essence they are all the same as you.

Steam, water and ice are exactly the same thing; they only appear to be different. The essence of everything and everyone is the essence of love.
Therefore, in order to see the true essence in everything, you must see it from the point of view of love.

You must become a loving person yourself, and then you will see a loving energy emanating from all things around you. If you are wearing green glasses, the world you see is green no matter what. If you see the world from glasses of love, everything
you see is love. You see love in yourself; you see love in others.

To love is to totally accept the other being as they are. When you love yourself, you should accept every aspect of yourself; when you love others, you should completely
accept them as they are. Never try to change them; only accept them.

If you and everyone else are perfect, whole, and infinite, why should you change anything? When you are trying to change anyone, it is only because you see imperfection in them, and that is not true love. When you truly love someone, you
see only perfection.

The question that comes up in your mind may be that, if we don’t want to change ourselves or anyone else, then where do the improvements come from? I say
that if you are truly loving, you would already have reached the highest state of freedom, and you don’t need to improve. You are already perfect. What can you do to improve on perfection?

You want to improve only when you see imperfection, and then you are not truly loving. When you are in the state of perfect love, you are experiencing the ultimate happiness. You feel everything is alright, nothing and no one can bother you anymore,
you see only perfection. Everything will happen naturally and with ease.

Love is also an attitude of giving; it is giving without strings attached.
When you give something to someone with an expectation of gaining praise for yourself, or to get something from him/her in return, then you are not present in an attitude of giving.

Giving with this kind of attitude is no better than not giving. The important thing is
the attitude, not the actual dollars or things.

You often see people donating millions of dollars to charity, but with an attitude to gain publicity, and fame. That is not true giving. The million dollars will not help much. If you hold an attitude of giving, without any selfishness attached, you are helping. The universe does not know the difference between a dollar and a million dollars, it only hears your feelings or your attitude. It will orchestrate all circumstances according to your feelings.

Love can also solve every one of your problems. Every problem is caused by non-loving emotions, which keep you away from the light of truth. Therefore, when you are loving, you won’t have any problems, because they will be resolved naturally.

Start practicing love in your life-the more you are able to love, the freer you are,
and the happier you are.

song cheng xiang